Periods, Contraception and Hormones Roundtable | Hannah Witton February 28, 2020 100 By Jose Scott CategoryArticles BlogTagsadenomyosis bloody good period chronic illness contraception diaries discharge discussion dysphoria education endometriosis fertility awareness hannah hannah witton hormone hormone diaries hormones non-binary periods Pregnancy roundtable sex ed sex education spoonie the hormone diaries The Pill trans witton 100 Comments Hannah Witton says: June 13, 2019 at 2:05 pm Thank you so much for watching/listening! Please share your stories and experiences in the comments! xx Reply Kaitlyn Brame says: June 15, 2019 at 10:32 am The taboo is slowly breaking though, finally- Honestly my fiancé deals with my periods than I do! Education is key though, and I wish we got more a lot sooner Reply Andrew Bristoe says: June 15, 2019 at 11:41 am very little info on pre meno phase for me i thought was this sudden thing mood swings big shock to stop the pill or not conflicting info online stopping pill late 40s for a women really effected me as a man wife got dr info to stop taking Reply Rachelaura Beauty says: June 15, 2019 at 12:26 pm To help A and taking the mini pill, have you ever considered getting the nexplannon implant? It's free on the NHS and is progestin-only like the mini pill. It lasts for 3 years and you don't have to think about it?? It's the best thing I've ever done for myself. Reply TheQueenofland says: June 15, 2019 at 1:00 pm As I young 15 year old(16 next month), I can say absolute Certainty that we are never informed about all of this at all. It was all skimmed over and it was always all you can’t do this you can’t do that don’t talk about it. Really hope in the future education can improve. Reply Beth says: June 15, 2019 at 4:39 pm I have always called pads etc period stuff, usually in a hushed voice. "I need stuff" was code between me and my dad for when I needed to go and buy more – he'd give me some money and I'd go into Superdrug and buy what I needed. Well done Dad! But also, when I went into an appointment to get contraception, I went in saying I thought I wanted the IUS and they talked me into getting the pill! Reply Michaela Burnley says: June 15, 2019 at 5:57 pm I feel like another thing about being a teenager is if you have side effects from your birth control (like this makes me emotionless, I have no sex drive now) you just get brushed off because you're sexually active so you need to be on birth control and who cares if you feel miserable now. Luckily my mom is awesome and listens. I'm 22 now and finally on a birth control that I'm comfortable with. Reply Beatriz Velayos says: June 15, 2019 at 7:04 pm I was 10-11 when I got my period and all I could think was, OMG, not yet, I can't be a woman yet, it's too soon… My mum wanted to make me feel better by telling me that it meant that my body was healthy, that I could have babies one day… Definetely didn't help with the "not yet god I'm so young" thing. So maybe if we separate periods from being a grown up woman, non-binary and trans bleeders, young bleeders, people with menopause, etc. would feel less conflicted about it. So, great point of discussion, and brilliant video all around. Thank you, Hannah. Reply Rachel H says: June 15, 2019 at 7:21 pm My sex ed at school is so bad I didn't know that it hurts the first time u have sex.Im 15… Also, what. I never knew what that white stuff was. We need to be taught more Reply Annika says: June 15, 2019 at 8:50 pm I got my period early I was like 11 or 12 and it was so awkward telling my mum. I didn't like it at all. I didn't talk about it with anyone since I didn't have any friends. Reply Phoebe Michael says: June 15, 2019 at 8:51 pm I would just like to say that I have the copper IUD and insertion was unpleasant but really quick! Pain afterwards only lasted for a few days for me, too! So although it can be painful as described in the video, it varies for every person! The copper coil wasn't mentioned but I think it's an excellent alternative to the hormonal options Reply Annie says: June 15, 2019 at 9:00 pm I LOVE these roundtables 🙌 Reply Aella Lee says: June 15, 2019 at 9:21 pm I use a period tracking app as a secondary form of birth control. I have a very regular cycle, and keep track of discharge so if I know that I am getting close to ovulating then I won't have p in v sex. I used it as a backup before because I knew that I had just ovulated a prior and then had a condom break with a partner, so I was a little concerned but close enough to my period that I knew I did't need to go buy plan B. If I had a weird cycle or had been extra stressed that month I would have probably not relied on cycle tracking as secondary. I really like having my periods too, even though I have super painful ones if I move around too much and haven't had access to a doctor to see regularly ever to address any of it. I really enjoy the care I give to myself tracking my cycle and planning to do things when I know that I will be higher energy, or more homework when I am in a more focused mood. I really enjoy it.My school education was awful and didn't fully explain everything, my mom explained a bit but I still felt so embarrassed when I got my period at the end of elementary school so I didn't tell my mom until three cycles later when she kept asking why my underwear had stains in them all. Reply Kherun Hafeji says: June 15, 2019 at 10:23 pm More roundtables please! I learned so much watching this, great job Hannah Reply Hog Wild says: June 15, 2019 at 10:33 pm Sanitary product isnt a bad word or phrase as i see it. Like with any other body waste or by product they are a sanitary issue. We have toilets as peeing or pooing in buckets like they used to do before toilets spread disease so we came up with toilets and waste managment which is a sanitary issue. Maybe it has an unintended consequence of making periods sound dirty or "taboo" which personally i think is daft. They are simply another bodily function.I really dont understand guys and girls who find it taboo to talk about. Reply Hog Wild says: June 15, 2019 at 10:49 pm I really enjoy these videos of your Hannah. Thank you so much. Massively educational and thought provoking for me as a guy. I always knew womans bodies were overly complex but this is just another level. Reply Raven Trunite says: June 16, 2019 at 2:14 am ah ! thank you for making this so intersectional ✨ my aunt lived with undiagnosed endometriosis for almost 30 years ! it’s so sad how womens pain is dismissed by doctors Reply Henlohumans humans says: June 16, 2019 at 5:57 am Thank you so much for this, your roundtable discussions are so important and help a lot of people out. My sex education at school (UK) was pretty good at educating about contraception and STIs, but didn’t mention any LGBTQ+ stuff or about consent and emotional side of things, we also never talked about periods. That said, I was very lucky in getting any at all, my friends from local schools who went to catholic school received none at all, and I used to talk to them about condoms and stuff at orchestra meetings. I really appreciate you talking about all of this, I wasn’t close enough with my parents to receive period products for the first 5 years of my period (then I was old enough to get myself) and have always had so much trouble using them for that reason and am so uncomfortable with the fact I get periods and dealing with the blood, I also have vaginismus so can’t use the menstrual cup or tampons, and the idea that your mum just decided to push you into that straight away makes me fear for those people like me who just can’t get anything up there, and who really might not have found that out by the age they start their periods. I also have significant pain and general body things and pms, and have never felt valid that it should be a thing that goes away and don’t know how you pluck up the confidence to just decide it’s okay to get help, when so many people have pain- like what makes you special? I’m not trying to be an asshole I’m just mega insecure. Watching this, and your roundtable on disability seriously helps affect the way I think about the world for the better, and I’m so glad it’s out there for people to consume. ❤️ Reply Lava Yuki says: June 16, 2019 at 7:14 am When I started my periods, I hated it and actually wished I was a boy at that time. I would definitely switch off my period if i could, Im guilty of taking back to back pill packs to skip it. I went to school in Ireland, and we had almost no sex education, and nothing about contraception besides condoms but not shown how to use them. It was bad. Reply tina says: June 16, 2019 at 10:15 am i've learnt so much more in this one video than from all the doctors i've seen Reply paleghosty says: June 16, 2019 at 10:36 am as a feminine nonbinary person having my period makes me so dysphoric, it's so good to hear it being talked about Reply Andi Lister says: June 16, 2019 at 2:29 pm I chose to watch this today and got my period for the first time in over a year because I've forgotten to get my depo. 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ Reply Rhiun says: June 16, 2019 at 8:04 pm I just love these converstations at the roundtable!! Reply Sarah Shunpike says: June 16, 2019 at 11:52 pm I have endometriosis, and by some miracle (or perhaps a curse…) it was severe enough that I managed to get diagnosed and have my laparoscopy within about 6 months of my symptoms worsening. I'd always had horrible, heavy, extremely painful periods, but I'd never noticed any irregularity. I used to just muscle through it in school, but once I started university it got a lot worse. Finally last spring I wound up missing a handful of classes because of the amount of pain I was in. I went to see hormone specialist and they began running tests to see if I could potentially have PCOS (poly-cystic ovarian syndrome), but the tests were inconclusive. I was due to have more tests run around September, but instead ended up in the ER before my appointment with severe, extremely debilitating pain. After that I went to the ER four more times, and every time they referred me to someone else: first to get my gallbladder checked, then to get a CT scan to make sure my kidneys were functioning, then to a GI specialist to see if I had ulcerative colitis. At that point, it was nearly Christmas, and I'd already seen a couple of OBGYNs who told me that I probably didn't have endometriosis and that the pain was almost definitely the result of my weight. When I went to the GI doctor, he spoke to me for about ten minutes and said, "You probably have endometriosis, but I'm going to recommend a colonoscopy anyway. It'll probably come back clean, which will put pressure on your gynecologist to preform a laparoscopy." I had been poked, prodded, scanned, and pricked for months with no answers and people constantly brushing off my insistence that this pain was severe and not just caused by my weight, so hearing those words meant a lot. I finally got in to see a doctor who specializes in endometriosis in January, and once again, I spoke to her for all of ten minutes before she told me that I had a textbook case and she could give me a clinical diagnosis then and there. I had my procedure in April (after my January colonoscopy, just in case), and I've been feeling loads better, but I still have a lot of anxiety surrounding my health. Ordinary aches and pains trigger suspicion in me, when I am sick I dread going to see my doctor for fear of them once again finding nothing wrong with me, and I'm terrified of the unpredictable but common return of symptoms post-op, once the tissue grows back. Also, I've developed a dairy sensitivity, which is miserable for someone like me whose comfort foods nearly all have dairy products in them. Reply Lili Stevens says: June 17, 2019 at 1:23 am I really want to get this out there more. I first started using contraceptives when I was about 13 because my periods were just awful. They were painful and heavy and long, and I would get super super moody for 2 weeks before. Basically I only felt normal about 1 week out of each month. So, like so many other bleeders, I went to my general doctor and asked to be put on the pill. Cut to 4 days later, and I realized that the pill I was on (and nearly every contraceptive pill to my knowledge) contains lactose as the first inactive ingredient. I'm severely allergic to dairy. No one thought to mention that ingredient to me, and when I called my doctor, she said that I couldn't possibly be reacting to such a small amount of dairy. I had had terrible nausea and stomach aches for those 4 days. After that, I immediately went off of it, and went to see an OBGYN at the local children's hospital. She's amazing and prescribed me the patch. After about 3 years, that wore off and I now have the hormonal IUD. It is REALLY painful getting it put in, but frankly, it wasn't any worse than the cramps I had been having previously.Thanks for doing these amazing roundtables Hannah! I've loved them so much and they're such important topics to get more recognition of. <3 Reply Sam Kelly says: June 17, 2019 at 6:56 am Hey Hannah, I love the round table period discussions, they are super interesting and informative! Could you do another one in future with people who don't have a regular cycle? Bleeders with PCOS, recurring dermatoid ovarian cysts, and other as yet unidentified medical mysteries. That's where I fit in (I have all of the three things I mentioned) and I would love to see a round table discussion talking about growing up with never regular periods, understanding the weird things are happening, diagnosis, managing pain, recurrent surgeries, the effects of hormonal birth control etc 🙂 Reply Lucy Imogen says: June 17, 2019 at 7:48 am Hi Hannah, love these round tables! Made me remember that a myth floating around my school was that if you have very painful periods that you should just have a baby young and it will stop. Could you debunk/discuss this in a future episode? Keep it up! Reply Caitlin Smith says: June 17, 2019 at 8:32 am Loved this! I was wondering, have you done/considered doing an episode about PMS, particularly PMDD/PME – kinda like with period pain we get taught that a certain amount of moodiness is normal, but for a lot of people it gets far far worse. I didn't really know about it until I got diagnosed a few months ago, so it's definitely an under talked about topic. Reply irismeeow says: June 17, 2019 at 11:27 am my boyfriend gets the shivers everytime i say discharge, so i'm trying to make him get used to those "gross" words hahahahah Reply Eloise L says: June 17, 2019 at 11:59 am I have had pretty painful periods in the past and they are still quite irregular. However I'm very scared to try any contraceptives as some people have really horrible experiences with them. I also don't like the idea of messing with my hormones.What works for me at the moment is mefenamic acid which is a painkiller similar to ibuprofen but a bit stronger. It works wonders for me. Also MENSTRUAL CUPS! I'm so glad I discovered them 3 years ago through Youtube and the internet. They have revolutionised my period. Reply Rosa Beck says: June 17, 2019 at 1:08 pm I relate to so many things that have been said in this discussion.I just got off my pill a couple of weeks ago after taking it for 4 years with a 4 months pause. My gynaecologist never educated me properly on the negative side effects the pill could have.I now kinda feel like I'm going through my second puberty, but in a good way. I felt so excited when I got my period back and trying to use a menstrual cup and getting to know myself again is so interesting. I feel a bit ashamed that I didn't listen to my body earlier, because the pill did definitely mess with my body and my well being. Thanks for this interesting discussion! 🙂 Also: is the pill free of charge in the UK? Reply Christmas 52 says: June 17, 2019 at 1:10 pm Watching this with a heatpack on my tummy for the 90th day in a row waiting to hear from the hospital. Thankyou for including discussions about endometriosis and chronic pain, even just listening is helping me feel less lonely in this. Reply Amy Jane Lavelle says: June 17, 2019 at 1:19 pm This was so fun and educational! I loved hearing so many different experiences! Please do more roundtables! Reply Melanie Murphy says: June 17, 2019 at 8:50 pm This was FANTASTIC and I LEARNED THINGS x Reply lotta järvi says: June 17, 2019 at 10:15 pm This is amazing and so refreshing, thank you<3 Reply Rosário Figueiredo says: June 17, 2019 at 11:37 pm This was amazing! Awesome job everyone! Reply Rhiannon Emily says: June 18, 2019 at 11:14 am What annoys me in Wales. is that female contraception is free for as long as you want (Prescriptions are free here) however the C-Card to get condoms from Sexual Health Clinics ends at 25!? Reply Fynnsternis says: June 18, 2019 at 11:46 am "They've even found it in the brain…"– "How did it get up there!?"I'm in tears xDD Reply Skating Mummy Emily-Kate Ice Skating says: June 18, 2019 at 1:41 pm So funny and informative. My daughter is at the age where we think she isn’t far off. I want to be able to tell her about the cup but she’s only 10 and I’m feeling awkward about bringing it up Reply T X says: June 18, 2019 at 2:28 pm I’d love one about masturbation, toys etc! Reply wolf5823 says: June 18, 2019 at 4:42 pm Am I the only one who doesn't remember my first period? I think I was 12 and it was during the summer but that's all I remember. Reply wolf5823 says: June 18, 2019 at 5:31 pm I've never had a child and I didn't have any anesthetic for Mirena insertion. The pain was never bad for me. I had cramps but they were less bad than my period cramps. Reply Amélie says: June 18, 2019 at 10:15 pm CARMILLA HELL YEAH Reply Jacky Star says: June 18, 2019 at 10:36 pm I've had a difficult relationship with my body ever since I started to go into puberty. I remember seeing my breasts were growing an crying because I hated my body and didn't want boobs. I remember being in denial for years after I'd first gotten my period. Even now I deal with my body image and those thoughts of self hatred creep back. I've come to terms with my period but occasionally I think about what I could get done to get rid of it. It hasn't been that long since I'm 18 but it's been a process and seeing people talk openly about this stuff helps. Reply Potassuim_Cation says: June 19, 2019 at 12:05 am My husband and I have been practicing the fertility awareness method for three years now, very imperfectly. I track my mucous and my moods. I sleep very irregularly and have a low body temperature, so I ignore that part. If you do want a really good app to help, Ovia is MUCH better than Clue. Reply GKForwhatisworth says: June 19, 2019 at 8:59 am Watching this while in bed cause i am in too much pain from cramps to go to work. It feels so right and I love this content! Reply helena mbl says: June 19, 2019 at 10:31 am This was fascinating to watch. It’s always good to hear about other people’s experiences, and I think there should be a lot more education about periods in general. There’s always going to be a taboo around it, but it’s great to see people talking about it so openly. After all, it’s just a natural and normal thing that is happening to people all the time. Reply Danika ! says: June 19, 2019 at 2:37 pm Holy shit I learned so much in this video what Reply Danika ! says: June 19, 2019 at 2:38 pm As a teenager I'll say that the education system has gotten better (at least where I live (in a super liberal part of Canada)) I learned about healthy relationship at school Reply Ag Let says: June 19, 2019 at 5:23 pm I love you guys, it was wonderful to watch and listen, I was nodding my head through whole conversation and saying "yeah thats so true!" to my laptop all the time 😅 Thank you! Reply Ralph Pickering says: June 19, 2019 at 11:31 pm Well – I learnt a ton! Yesterday it was chafing – today periods and hormones. Not exactly sure what use I'll be able to put this new knowledge to – maybe just stuff to bring up during those breaks in conversation at dinner parties. Having a renewed appreciation for the variety of human experience is no bad thing. Thanks, bleeders. Reply KawaiiKvlt says: June 20, 2019 at 4:30 am Yesss so happy you did another round table! I loved the first one so much. 😍 Reply alvaro carrillo says: June 20, 2019 at 5:03 am Very interesting Reply Halefa says: June 20, 2019 at 1:25 pm Something that would be super freaky for me without period: the not "feeling" time. Periods structure my life into months – both looking back (oh, another month has gone by), but also looking ahead (which weekend would work best for a short holiday?). That would all just be …. the same. Maybe nice, but also freakish. Reply Lotte Johnson says: June 20, 2019 at 3:20 pm Could you get some older women/people on? I feel like there's an under representation of people of a certain age… they just drop off, they have all the knowledge, they've lived it! Reply Frank Bank says: June 20, 2019 at 9:01 pm Could someone explain the Pope's involvement in the withdrawal bleeding at 45:55 ? Reply Dorissa Claire says: June 20, 2019 at 10:21 pm I got sex Ed and period education at 12/13 through the grace of one determined, rebel teacher in her last semester. By the time all the girls had already either had it or knew about it, but the boys were actually really fascinated and had more questions than the girls! Now that I’m a young adult I make a point of talking about periods and hormonal contraceptives in front of male friends. The boys I actually tolerate are fine with it, they realize real quick if they want to spend extended time with any women they need to tolerate it and be open about it. I recently I had really good discussion about IUD’s with a male friend in a group of girls. It turns out, he had a lot more experience with them, as his partner has one but none of us did! Definitely stay in the room! Reply AlwaysEating Death says: June 21, 2019 at 4:21 pm I loved this, so nice to get different perspectives. And had no idea about those two diseases! Reply Sethiños says: June 22, 2019 at 4:52 pm This deserves so much more attention! Separate from all the really lovely, valuable learning I did as a guy, it was also a brilliant, interesting video with some great personalities 🙂 Reply Diringer Animals says: June 22, 2019 at 5:05 pm I use the nuva ring and string them together to prevent my period due to the emotional disturbances, but after a few months without a period, I start to spot for weeks and sometimes have mini cramps.I can feel myself ovulate. Reply stuff says: June 23, 2019 at 2:29 am this is amazing! i've never seen a conversation like this (seeing online i mean) before and its SO refreshing and enlightening in many ways Reply Dan Avangard says: June 23, 2019 at 12:26 pm I'm a trans guy pre-everything and I get my period. You asked A if they were thinking "it shouldn't happen to me". I can share my experience – I do think like that. Period is the worst time of the month. It hurts so much (that's why I take a lot of painkillers so I don't feel anything at all). I have a medical history too (chemo because cancer) and I'm so fucking glad that because of chemo my period is only 3 days. I'm not planning on having children at all (if I do, it wouldn't be through my body anyway 😀) and I kinda relate to A's point – I'm not having children in the future, why do I have to suffer physically and mentally every month. It's hard thoAlso, thanks for being and doing what you do and that you acknowledge that periods aren't just a cisgender girl thing by adding a non-binary person to this discussion Reply Ouch Mouse says: June 23, 2019 at 4:39 pm I love these discussions so much! Thank you for being so inclusive of such a range of identities and experiences <3 Reply Kendall Shaw says: June 23, 2019 at 5:05 pm I love that the non-binary person watched Carmilla and found someone they identified with!! Representation matters 😻😻😻 Reply Rafael Santos says: June 23, 2019 at 10:51 pm Really enjoyed this, was very informative and I appreciate that you brought in people with various conditions and even included non-binary folk.Edit: I wrote the part in brackets before finishing the whole video, soz. Thanks Hannah for having men's backs though and correcting Katie about the results of the male contraceptive study. You're right to still be angry about carrying that burden alone, but I don't think men are the ones to blame here, really, and I appreciate it very much that you pointed out the nuance of the issue.[A quick correction though: from my understanding, the male contraceptives that have been tested didn't make men just "a bit moody". The mood swings and instability were much more intense than is generally the case for female hormone contraceptives (depression was a common side effect, which is why the notorious study had to be stopped prematurely).] Reply Harriet Maxwell says: June 25, 2019 at 4:10 pm Using the clue app was how I found out (at 22) that not all cycles are 28 days. I just thought I was always late… Reply Camille Haviland says: June 26, 2019 at 6:42 pm Loved hearing the part talking about fertility and cervical mucous and everything! I was so embarrassed about my mucous discharge when I was younger, I wish I had heard someone say it was like a super power back then. lol. I didn’t know any of that until I started trying to get pregnant. I wish they taught more about that in school. It’s so interesting and important. Reply Diringer Animals says: June 27, 2019 at 5:53 pm we need the audiobook in the US! please! Reply Jamie Dalton says: June 28, 2019 at 1:34 am Thank you for highlighting endometriosis and excision!! I’m 35 and have had endo since I started. I had a hysterectomy at 27 to “cure” it and when I started doing research, I realized I could have gotten relief without removing my uterus, cervix and ovaries, and also realizing that a hysterectomy doesn’t cure endo, because endo creates its own estrogen which continues to fuel and feed and and grow. Reply Kat says: June 28, 2019 at 7:30 am Wow. I never realized all the implications of the language around period products and cleanliness until now. "Sanitary products" and "feminine hygiene" as if our periods are inherently dirty and in turn makes us dirty when we have them. We really distance ourselves from a lot of the practices in rural communities around the world where people are excluded from society during the days they menstruate because they are "unclean" and the things they touch become "unclean" as well, we call those practices backwards and sexist, and then we go on to use the exact same language. Reply Chloe says: June 28, 2019 at 10:58 am Thank you for including Katie I have never identified with someone so much concerning problems with the pill and pain since starting periods- I also have endometriosis and it is so comforting to see someone like me. 🙂 Reply TheKaijaS says: June 30, 2019 at 6:11 am An excellent round table. Thanks for making this. Reply Kristina ! says: July 1, 2019 at 4:41 am GREAT video!!! Reply Ireallyreally Hategoogle says: July 4, 2019 at 1:18 am Society wise, wanting men to be productive 24/7 and people getting pregnant, even when they don't want to, is good when it is viewed from a capitalistic point of view.More workers means lower wages and more aggressive and domineering men means more production. It's not for nothing that the ALPHA male myth is always propagated. If we ever stop the race for constant growth, then maybe contraception will be better studied, including male contraception. Reply Erin Heywood says: July 11, 2019 at 9:44 am Wow i did NOT know that it was ok to not have that 7 day break, i thought it was for health reasons that we had that bleed in between packs Reply Emma-lee swift says: July 11, 2019 at 11:01 pm I'm 16 I'm not on the pill I got the implant and I wanted the implant since I started my period at 10 and I wouldn't change it atm but after the time it's up I might go a bit more natural and not go on contraception for a while Reply Angee Shadow says: July 16, 2019 at 7:38 pm I started mine when I was ten… Reply Samantha Hammett says: July 24, 2019 at 6:39 pm I think it's so interesting that it's called a coil and thus people thought it was a spring! Here in the US, I've always heard about it as an IUD – I've rarely heard the term coil. I think the coil is older terminology or just a colloquialism? Idk but it was surprising that is what everyone at the round table called it. Reply Lance Cee says: July 29, 2019 at 1:35 am I learned about periods in 3rd grade Reply Gianna Mendiola says: July 31, 2019 at 11:28 pm Didn't think I would ever click on this video but so glad I did. This is the most information about all of the topics I have ever received Reply definitelynotbalanced says: August 5, 2019 at 12:58 pm I am a guy and I admit that there are weird feelings when talking about periods or listening to someone talking about periods. On one hand, I am personally not very comfortable with blood. I mean i more or less had the same feeling the whole course of this video as compared to when someone would tell me:" hey i cut myself while cooking and it bled like crazy." on the other hand the girls I have met have either been very much like "I have a stomachache and there is nothing you can do about it" or straight-up " hey so this weird thing happened during my period" up to the point of sending me pictures. I mean I am totally open to talking about it but it still a sensitive subject so i wouldn't mind being eased into it. Reply Ana Griffith says: August 15, 2019 at 4:03 am As an American, I find a lot of this relatable, we didn’t get much sex education besides don’t have sex (Massachusetts) but my husband who is from Texas got an amazing sex education. I’m 28 and have been on the pill since I was 15 because of acne and pain/heavy flow, wasn’t even sexually active for a few years after. The thought of going off of it is stressful because it’s been so regulated for so many years. Also, now that my husband and I want to start trying for kids, I’m having to work so hard to retrain my mindset about getting pregnant. It has been drilled into my (our) heads for years and years that getting pregnant was basically the worst thing that could happen to you as a female. It’s all so complicated and stressful! Reply Jupiter Blue says: August 28, 2019 at 8:54 pm l had the same condition as A, but it wasn't diagnosed until 2011 when I was 41. At first I was dismissed as 'exaggerating', but they reluctantly agreed to exploratory surgery (laparoscopy) in my early 20s because I was dangerously anaemic. I was told that I had a small patch of endometriosis, but it was 'only' the size of a 50p. Therefore, I must have 'a very low pain threshold' (I don't), even though it was on a ligament and the gynaecologist made it clear he felt his time had been wasted. I put up with it (because he made me feel ashamed and guilty) until I had to be admitted into hospital multiple times for haemorrhaging. One period lasted nearly 9 weeks, stopped for 3 days and then I started bleeding again for another 4 weeks. My record was 64 super tampons in one 2 week bleed and that didn't include the pads I had to us in addition to the tampons. I was booked for another laparoscopy and I was about to be given general anaesthesia when the surgeon leaned over me and started singing, 'You must have been a beautiful baby'. He reeked of alcohol, so I yelled that I was withdrawing consent. They put me under and let him operate on me anyway. I woke up screaming in agony and they had to give me 7 lots of morphine to bring my blood pressure down and they couldn't get me out of the door fast enough. After that, I was admitted to A&E whenever l started my period because I needed IV meds to control the bleeding and pethidine injections for the pain. I'd know when they started because l'd double over in pain, look down and see that I was standing in my own blood. The hospital made me wait 3 years for surgery, so I also lost my job. I haemorrhaged at work, so I became too embarrassed to leave the house because I never had any warning. l was fully opened up in December 2003 because nothing was showing on ultrasound and the previous (drunken) laparoscopy recorded no abnormalities. Apparently they just stared at me for 10 minutes before calling the senior gynaecologist. He told me he'd not seen anything like it in 30 years as a gynaecologist. To use his exact phrase, drunk surgeon had 'hacked off' my fallopean tubes, caused a bleed somewhere and had 'mutilated' my insides with a cauterising iron. They spent 3 and a half hours removing scar tissue before they gave up. There was nothing I could do because more than 3 years had elapsed. Ironically, they'd delayed my surgery for a week for no reason. If my surgery happened on the planned date, I would have been within the 3 year window. But I wasn't, so he got away with it. There was an initial improvement, post-surgery, but it started up again. I was given something called a microwave endrometrial ablation in 2007 which permanently stops menstruation in 95% of cases. Guess what, I was in the 5%. *Sigh*. An ultrasound showed fibroids, which explained the bleeding, but not the pain. So of course they decided l was exaggerating the pain. I was put on progesterone to stop my periods altogether, but was told I was only supposed to be on them for 6 months. Every time I was taken off them, it all started up again. So they recommended a hysterectomy. In addition to complications from my first major surgery, adhesions fusing my bladder, bowel, uterus and ovaries together, tests on my uterus after it was removed showed the main cause of my problems was Adenomyosis. The surgeon who performed my hysterectomy apologised profusely because he knew by then why I was in so much pain and Adenomyosis can be treated by a vaginally inserted gel. So I went through all that for nothing. Apologies for the long post, I just wanted to give an idea of the sheer amount of evidence available when I thought it would stop history repeating. I was wrong. I went with my daughter to see her GP when she was 19, because she had exactly the same symptoms I had at that age. I actually said to the GP that what I went through was worth it because it would spare her. The GP refused to refer my daughter to a gynaecologist because, and I quote, "We don't refer patients complaining of painful and heavy periods because we find women tend to exaggerate." Even with my history, they refused to conduct a single test. Periods are apparently supposed to be painful and 'heavy' to us means basically that we weren't expecting to bleed at all. I thought the mistakes made in my case were due a lack of data, or a product of the times. But even after medical proof and a doctor who as a woman should know better, we are still ignored. If our symptoms don't fit their hypotheses, we are dismissed due to misogyny, not medicine. Until doctors afford dignity and respect to those who are the ones who actually have period problems, nothing is going to change and it breaks my heart. Reply Sophie Weaver says: September 1, 2019 at 6:14 am i love my period cause it tells me i'm not pregnant each month! Reply Peter Higginson says: September 8, 2019 at 10:05 pm I am a man and I grew up with only sisters so as they started I was taught what is happening and what it means and the problems that follow so there is not much I do not know and I freak out my girlfriend when I know answer to some of her issues Reply Rosea Bee says: September 14, 2019 at 10:00 pm So i have a small vaginal opening….i tried to use tapons when i first started out and it stretched me out so badly it actually tore …i had to get 30 stitches in my vagina…so because of that i cant and wont use tampons at all so pads it is for me Reply Laurel F says: September 23, 2019 at 9:21 pm I started my period at 11, genuinely until about 16/17, I thought you had to have sex on your period, in order to get pregnant! If you had sex any other time, you’d be fine! 🤦🏼♀️ great education! Reply Michalina P says: September 25, 2019 at 2:32 pm II feel really weird after hearing this conversation. I live in Poland and here we had strong traditional way of teaching this stuff. Class were divided in two: girls and boys. On one lesson we watched a film from maybe 80. illustrating those big and chunky pads without wings – and nothing at all. Nothing about tampons another sanitary products. They teaches us how to plan your pregnancy. There were the only two ways of preventing having a child: condom and calendar. I already knew all of this stuff. I had then around 13 yo. I do not know, what was teached in boys' class. There was definitely a biology concentrated approach. Reply Michael Hansen says: October 15, 2019 at 8:26 am Good to see a non-binary person included in the discussion. Reply Eric Twombly says: October 24, 2019 at 3:59 am These round table discussions are phenomenal and should be directly involved with sexual and mental health education—for all genders! I’m a older man who had worked in mental health over 20 years with children and military veterans and I truly wish this video, and others that’s been done by this wonderful woman (on stomas, disabilities, sexuality, et al) in real world education! Because I was a nurse I was education on this subject, but I gained my knowledge from the women and their experience that transcended academia’s concepts! You are right, we need to listen to the true experts on this topic — the women!! Reply o w o says: October 25, 2019 at 11:43 am I never had a pain issue with the IUD being put in yet I've never given birth. For reference I have a low pain tolerance. They placed it without anesthesia and after a manageably painful pinching sensation during insertion there there was no great pain apart from slight period like cramps. I took a mild pain killer right afterwards because it was a standard recommendation.Then again I've also heard of people who haven't been able to walk after the procedure. It depends on a lot of things like your personal anatomy but the major thing I've found is that the skill of the doctor/nurse inserting the IUD plays a crucial part. You also have to go in when they recommend you to which is when your cervix is the most open. Reply Martha Hawkinson-Michau says: November 9, 2019 at 10:03 am I had an especially memorable first period. I was thirteen and a half when it started, and I bled continuously for forty days straight. Heavy bleeding, continuously forty days. About the same time my doctor started to be concerned that I might get anemic from the bleeding, it dried up, stopped and I wen two months without bleeding. AAAAnd that began my life of having really unpredictable irregular periods. I've gone years without having a period, and I've also experienced spotting that felt like it would last forever(6 months). In the 22 years since my first period, the only time I've ever had a regular period–I was on birth control pills. Yes, I have PCOS. And yes, I am aware that super irregular periods are a super common symptom. Reply Abby Wightman says: November 16, 2019 at 1:45 pm I'm so glad I'm learning all this as an almost 16 year old girl rather than when I'm in my mid twenties Reply E-Jay's Queer Way says: November 22, 2019 at 7:08 pm Camila!!! Reply Sammy Tyler says: December 28, 2019 at 11:48 am My fiancé wants to know so much about my period. He’s made such an effort to learn, and now even changes my pad for me sometimes (I get clots with my endometriosis and I find it quite triggering) without even batting an eyelid Reply Sammy Tyler says: December 28, 2019 at 11:53 am A is so beautiful 😍 I’m getting married next year and I can honestly say I’ve not fancied anyone else in the time we’ve been together but A is an absolute new crush. I want to be best friends 🙈 I’ve gone all mushy like a teenager Reply Mari Kook says: December 31, 2019 at 12:56 pm Most of the talk was very nice and informative, but I do think you all should have researched about male contraception and the problem with it before being all like "oh come on, it's 2019!".There has been quite a bit of research into making male contraception, but the problem is that men produce sperm non-stop. For women, you mostly have to deal with one egg a month, not millions of sperm a day. "Your testicles are constantly producing new sperm in spermatogenesis. The full process takes about 64 days. During spermatogenesis, your testicles make several million sperm per day — about 1,500 per second. By the end of a full sperm production cycle, you can regenerate up to 8 billion sperm. " So the problem isn't that they aren't even trying, the problem is that it is extremely difficult to make effective birth control for men. For women, we have a lot of options and options within those options. There is research going on but It all takes time. Reply Ellie Allison says: January 4, 2020 at 7:07 pm I'm non-binary and seeing A on this panel was so comforting. Thank you guys! Reply Margaret Oliver says: January 28, 2020 at 1:31 am I ABSOLUTELY FEEL THE SAME, A. I never quite felt connected to being a woman, but also never quite a man either. I've recently come out as nonbinary and it's taking family a bit to get used to… But surprisingly, work has been super accepting! Which I'm very thankful for. Reply Randall Parr says: February 24, 2020 at 5:11 am R u offended when men call u a girl? Reply Leave a Reply Cancel reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Name * Email * Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment.