Actor Terry Crews On How An Addiction To Porn Almost Cost Him His Marriage

Actor Terry Crews On How An Addiction To Porn Almost Cost Him His Marriage

August 31, 2019 0 By Jose Scott


Rebecca and I have been able to manage this family there’s career over the last 28 years just by being a team my wife was trying to get me on the right plan and there was the ego I was a card-carrying member of this toxic masculinity and it all came through with me realizing that I didn’t know everything when we got married we started having a family she put everything on hold for 20 years there were times I would have three jobs at the same time and she was like I’ve got the kids I’m taking care of the home all during the success of the career and I’ve had an addiction to pornography it was always hidden and secret and this and that and I never told my wife during our whole marriage and I finally finally broke when I first confronted Terry we had it out he told me about the prostitute told me about all the porn things I said you know we’re done right he’s like I told you everything I said that’s good but now it’s over I woke me up I was like I need to get better for me the hardest part was knowing that someone I loved respected and trusted was nothing like I thought he was and now it’s like a lie everything was a lie I believe in the heart of every man is this a little bit of pride this little bit of arrogance it says oh she won’t leave but when he saw that I meant business I think it really challenged him he says that he made the commitment to get better whether or not he got us back eventually Rebecca did choose to come back I had to earn it it’s still a marriage he suddenly became very transparent it was really not like him in my mind put the money where his mouth was and he went to see a counselor and afterwards I would say it took me probably three years the trust and again I have little moments now of PTSD [Music] Rebecca Cruz is my backbone when someone knows you for good all the way to the rottenness dirtiest part of you and loves you anyone that’s the rarity that’s where you want to be [Music] [Applause] Rebecca thank you for joining us thank you dr. fields my tremendous pleasure you guys have been married 28 years right you and I were talking earlier there have been ups and downs clearly and you said that you had a come-to-jesus moment in your marriage that almost led to divorce describe that moment for us well my husband was away on location shooting a project and we got into an argument because he was out late with his cast members but it turned out he was out late with one cast member I started to hammer him and with questions and all of a sudden he starts coming out of his skin with these confessions ten years ago I did this 13 years ago I did this and I have this addiction to pornography and he starts to tell me all this horrible horrible stuff and my immediate reaction was to throw him out and I did obviously it brought out a lot of emotions one of them was anger I know you said when we were talking to you earlier you said I thought I’m gonna take your money and move on with my life I’m still young and I’ve got my groove and I want to keep it moving I was yes when I when I said to him you know we’re done right he’s like what I say yes I’m going to leave your raggedy behind I’m going to take your money too [Applause] my job support for me and my new man this [Applause] I gotta say you man guys operate all pride belladonna we operate up we do know and you’re successful you feel like that buys you a pass that it’s her that it’s them it’s everyone else but then a small voice came to me and said maybe it’s me you know I did not go to rehab to get my wife back I went there because I needed to be a better person